This shit has seriously got me ticked off right now. My friend (we’ll call her K) just messaged me on Facebook to say that she was called “bossy” in a group message with her male groupmates about a project in response to her giving a matter of fact answer to a question.
(Me, in duck form).
As someone who has been called bossy on multiple occasions, I have had a particularly hateful relationship with that word, primarily because it seems to be used solely to describe women. Men don’t call other men bossy using Michelle from Full House GIFs. Men call women bossy when they are trying to undermine and silence them.
Nonetheless, I have recently taken reclaiming the word in the way some women have with other choice insults hurled at us. I’m bossy? GREAT, THANK YOU. I GET SHIT DONE. HOW ABOUT YOU?
My friend K is too, one of those boss bitches that gets shit done. She goes to Georgetown and is getting her second Master’s after having gotten her first Master’s at the university where I work, speaks wonderful Arabic, and is overall just a fucking delight. She got there on her own- no rich parents, and certainly no male privilege to help her out.
Overall, I find that men who throw around the b-word are painfully mediocre, especially in comparison to people like K. They’ve had things handed to them and been applauded for average (at best) work.
Anyway, rant over.